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Like many proud parents, I love to see my kids in action. Words cannot describe how great it feels to see them excel. I have coached several of my son’s athletic teams already and will likely do the same for my daughter when she is old enough. They both love sports so there is no place I’d rather be than next to them assisting with their development.
It is not uncommon for us to be in the yard playing or out at one of the local fields. Whether it is baseball, basketball, football, or soccer, there’s a good chance we’ll be practicing at some point. Unfortunately, we are usually the only family on the fields. We rarely need to share. Many parents either aren’t making time or falsely assume that kids develop on their own.
Now before I begin my rant, I don’t claim that my opinion is the universal truth. I’m not a fan of generalizations so I won’t categorize all parents and kids together. I am simply sharing some of the observations that I’ve made as a parent and coach. I’ve been around plenty of kids and communicated with many parents.
I’ve also had plenty of parents make comments to me directly about my son. Just this past weekend, one such parent made a comment to me during my son’s soccer game. It’s a line that I’ve heard many times before. I was walking my dog around the field when my son scored one of his two goals that day. As I cheered his name, a parent looked over and commented,
Oh that’s your son? He’s a natural.
Before I could respond, he looked away and continued what appeared to be an ongoing conversation. Rather than start what could have been a lengthy discussion, I simply said thank you and continued walking.
Thinking back however, it is unfortunate that many parents assume that a talented child is naturally gifted. I honestly don’t know how much of my son’s ability is natural and how much comes from what has been a lifetime of activity. My kids have never known life without exercise and sport.
Since day one, they’ve been around pro fighters who come here to train. I still remember my son being amazed when he first saw a car in a garage. As a toddler, he thought every garage was a gym. He was puzzled why someone would park a car there. He wanted to know how they would train.
That’s the mentality he’s been around his entire life. Before he could walk, he would lift his head up and watch me exercise next to him. Seven years later he continues to be as eager as ever. I’ve never once told him to play sports or to go out and exercise. It’s just something he wants to do based on what he has witnessed his entire life.
He will stay outside as long as I let him. He never wants to come inside. Before school he wants to play catch. After school he wants to play basketball or soccer. It’s never ending. He always wants to play something.
My daughter is following in his footsteps. Not only does she have active parents, she’s also got a big brother to follow. I see similar examples from other kids in town. The kids who advance ahead of their peers are typically the kids whose parents are out on the fields helping. Almost every successful athlete that I’ve seen in town has a parent who volunteers.
It isn’t rocket science. The greatest gift you could ever give a child is time. Undivided attention is worth more than anything. Yet while some parents volunteer, I see others who view practices and games as a break from parenting. They drop the kids off before game time and show up late to pick them up afterward. Others sit in the car the entire time. They are oblivious to what is happening on the field. Forget about paying attention to the game, they don’t even know if their kids are safe.
Unfortunately, the kids of these parents often lose interest in sports. There is no one to cheer them on. They have no one to help, encourage, or play with outside of practice. They are essentially on their own and that’s unfortunate. It’s not a case of winning or losing a game. We are talking about children who aren’t given a fair chance to win at the game of life.
If you want your children to be healthy and active, it is your job to lead by example. Don’t wish your children would be more active. Show them how. Set an example that they can follow. And as I make these statements, please don’t misconstrue the message. I’m not suggesting that we create an army of athletes. I’ve always told my kids that I’ll support whatever they do. If my son wants to play the piano instead of baseball, I’d gladly learn alongside him. I’d simply encourage him to remain physically active by continuing to lead by example.
Whatever they do, I’ll be by their side assisting any way I can. I say this not only for athletics, but also academics. If you want your children to excel (at anything), roll up your sleeves and show them the way.
So many of the problems we face today would disappear if more parents stepped up to the plate and did their jobs. For example, childhood obesity would be all but nonexistent if more parents got up and took their kids outside to play. Most kids enjoy running around and playing outside. That’s how they start. The interest is there, but it is up to the parents to keep the flame burning. Naturally, different kids will migrate towards different interests and activities. Yet regardless of individual differences, all kids can share a love for physical activities and adventures.
Once again though, children tend to imitate their parents. If a parent sits on his ass eats himself into a coma, don’t expect the child to act any differently. Actions speak louder than words. It’s one thing to tell a child what to do, yet entirely different to demonstrate through your own daily actions. Kids will forget what you say, but they’ll always remember what you do (and did).
Lead from the front and show them the way.
Kids spell love T-I-M-E. – John Crudele15 comments
Earlier this week, I shared a prior entry on Facebook about heavyweight athletes and their ability to perform handstand pushups. If you don’t recall the original entry, refer to the link below.
Within that article, I shared stories of Paul Anderson, Doug Hepburn, and Arnold Schwarzenegger. Each of these men performed handstand pushups regularly. And while such displays may stand out as unusual today, it was quite common for old-time strongmen to perform such feats. There are countless examples from previous generations. We can add to the list with the following:
And while many current trainers shy away from handstand work (often due to their own inability), it is always nice to see modern athletes perform handstand feats. One example can be seen below from a 220 pound individual. If you thought handstand pushups were only for lightweights, prepare to change your mind.
For those interested in learning how to advance with handstands, refer to the old York courses below.
As you will see, there are no secrets. It all boils down to hard work and consistency.
Everybody pities the weak; jealousy you have to earn. – Arnold Schwarzenegger10 comments
There is no denying that I am passionate about training. I’m equally passionate about training my athletes. I love my time in the gym. I love the lifestyle. I live for the physical and mental challenge. I look forward to it every single day. I rarely take days off because I truly enjoy the grind. My best days are always those that start with a hard session in the gym. I’d be lost without it.
There’s more to my motivation than passion and enjoyment however. As a father, I continue to train hard because doing so allows me to be more active and involved with my kids. In many ways I’m just a big kid, but I still take my duty as a father quite seriously. The best gift you could ever give a child is time. There’s nothing more rewarding than playing alongside my kids as they smile from ear to ear.
Staying physically active allows me to keep up with my kids and their endless supply of energy. I’m able to play harder and longer. Unfortunately, doing so seems to be unusual these days. I see so many parents my age who are already reduced to sitting on the sidelines and watching. A day at the park rarely passes without someone commenting on how they are “too old” to keep up with the kids. I laugh to myself when these comments come from parents who are younger than me.
To each his own, but I take pride in having my kids look up to me. My kids think I’m Superman. In their eyes, I can do anything and I’ll do everything to prove them right. Regardless of what we set out to do, I strive to lead by example. I want my kids to believe that anything is possible if you work for it.
A few weeks ago we set up an outdoor pool. It didn’t take long for my son to start doing cannon balls off the ladder. I was working in the yard as I watched. He then looked up and said, “Imagine if you could cannon ball me from outside the pool?” He didn’t think it was possible. In an instant, I kicked off my shoes and jumped. The laugh that he had when I splashed him was priceless. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
If busting my ass in the gym means I can make my kids smile, it’s worth more than words could ever describe. Training hard helps me play hard and that’s something I plan to do for as long as I’m alive.
Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. – Oliver Wendell Holmes13 comments
The image below was recently emailed to me. I shared it on Facebook and thought it was worthy of a share here as well.
The short story contained within drives home the significance of living in the present. It reminds me of a previous video that I shared earlier this year (see here). In both cases, the message isn’t specific to exercise or sport. It’s bigger than that. It’s about life. Time is the most valuable commodity of all, yet unfortunately it’s the most wasted as well.
Many people don’t give each day enough credit. In their eyes, tomorrow always has more potential than today. Seeing through the fallacy of tomorrow is perhaps the most important step towards success. You need to not only appreciate today, but also recognize its potential.
I don’t gamble on tomorrow because it’s never guaranteed. I always knew this to be true but was reminded of it in a way that I’ll never forget last year. My best friend was driving home from work to see his wife and kids and never made it. He died tragically in a car accident. I think about his accident regularly. It’s a constant reminder for me to make the most of today. And while we all have different ambitions in life, making the most of the day to me means working hard and playing hard. I do everything I can to take care of my family but it’s also important to enjoy them.
Wasting time doesn’t allow me to do either. Once it’s been wasted, you never get it back. The clock is always running. I do my best to keep up with it.
Seeing the image above provided me with a nice reminder of that. I hope you enjoy it as well.
Seize the day, then let it go. – Marty Rubin2 comments
I typically use this blog for training and inspirational posts. I’d like to shift gears for this particular entry however. Those who have followed me for any amount of time have likely seen or heard of my dogs Tank and Jayda. I have shared many of their pictures and stories on Facebook. Tank’s picture was even included in my Infinite Intensity book. Following the book’s original release in 2005, Tank became known by many as the RossTraining mascot. Dog lovers from around the world have emailed me regularly about him for many years now.
Unfortunately, as many of you know, Tank passed away earlier this week. Since his passing, I have literally received hundreds of messages from people all around the world. Based on the outpouring of kindness, I wanted to thank everyone for their encouraging words and support. As every dog lover knows, it is devastating to see one of our four legged family members pass.
For those who have asked about Tank, he was actually in good health as recent as a few weeks ago. It was my other dog Jayda who first became sick. Since she was diagnosed with lymphoma, Tank stood by her side every moment and was visibly saddened by her illness. His heart took a sudden turn for the worse last week and he died in my arms of a heart attack. I truly believe he died of a broken heart. Mine is also broken as a result.
We now continue to fight with Jayda against her lymphoma but she’s unfortunately not expected to last much longer. Although we will continue to fight the inevitable, I wanted to give both dogs at least one more mention on the site. Both have been man’s best friend and then some. They have shared time with me at work and in the gym for what seems like an eternity. They have been the most loyal and loving companions to me and my family. I am already lost without Tank and can only imagine what it will feel like to lose Jayda.
Update – A week after writing this entry, Jayda passed away as well.
In closing, I sincerely appreciate all of the kind words that I’ve received. I could have never imagined so many people taking an interest in my two best buddies. Losing one unexpectedly while preparing to lose the other has been quite difficult. It is times like this when I fall back on the Henry Rollins quote listed below. Such words have never failed me.
The Iron is the best antidepressant I have ever found. There is no better way to fight weakness than with strength.
I look forward to getting back to updating the site regularly in the next few days.
The one absolutely unselfish friend that man can have in this selfish world, the one that never deserts him, the one that never proves ungrateful or treacherous, is his dog. – George Graham44 comments